Standing Strong

Despite the strong contributions made by the South Asian diaspora to the economy, society, and culture of the United States, we are entering a period of hostility towards immigrants that is likely to affect us all, regardless of our legal status. Sadly, we must acknowledge the fact that communities of color will be the target of race-based attacks, both verbal and otherwise. Knowing how to respond effectively and protect your emotional well-being is essential.

Here’s a guide on how to handle such encounters with strength and grace:

 

1. Prioritize Your Safety

Your physical and emotional safety always comes first. If the person making racist comments appears aggressive or threatening, distance yourself from the situation. Trust your instincts, and if necessary, seek assistance from those nearby or law enforcement. Leaving the situation may be the safest option.

 

2. Stay Calm and Grounded

Remaining calm in the face of hostility is difficult but crucial. Racist remarks are designed to provoke or belittle, and responding with anger may escalate the situation. Breathe deeply, remind yourself of your worth, and choose a response that aligns with your values.

 

3. Decide Whether to Engage or Walk Away

Every situation is unique, and your response will depend on the context:

• When to Engage: If you feel safe and emotionally equipped, you can use the opportunity to educate or challenge the person.
   

  • Example: “I’d appreciate it if you didn’t make comments like that. It’s hurtful and unnecessary.”

  • Example: “Why do you think that? Let’s talk about it.”

• When to Walk Away: If the remarks are too aggressive or emotionally taxing, walking away is a perfectly valid choice. Remember, you don’t owe anyone your energy or an explanation.
   

4. Use Humor or Deflection

Sometimes, humor or a clever remark can diffuse tension while maintaining your dignity.

• Example: “That’s an interesting perspective. I’ll file it under outdated opinions.”

• Example: “Wow, haven’t heard that one since the ’80s.”

 

5. Draw on Cultural Pride

Your South Asian heritage is a source of immense strength. Remind yourself of the achievements, values, and resilience of the community you represent. This can be an empowering antidote to the negativity you experience.

 

6. Build a Support Network

Share your experiences with trusted friends, family, or community groups. Venting and receiving validation can help you process the event and regain a sense of control. Many South Asian community organizations also offer resources for addressing discrimination. Here at TheySeeBlue, we pride ourselves on creating and fostering a welcoming and supportive community. Together we are stronger.

 

7. Document and Report

If the incident occurs in a workplace, school, or public setting, document it if possible. Take note of what was said, the time and place, and any witnesses. Reporting the behavior ensures accountability and may prevent future incidents.

 

8. Take Care of Yourself Post-Encounter

Racist remarks can take a toll on your mental health. Practice self-care by engaging in activities that bring you joy and peace, such as meditation, spending time with loved ones, or connecting with your faith or spirituality.

 

9. Educate and Advocate

Empower yourself and others by promoting awareness of racism and its impact. Share stories, resources, and strategies within your circle to create a more informed and empathetic community.

 

10. Celebrate Your Identity

Never let the ignorance of others diminish your pride in being South Asian. Celebrate your culture through food, art, music, festivals, and traditions. Every act of cultural expression is a form of resistance to bigotry.

 

Final Thoughts

Racism in any form is unacceptable, and it’s not your responsibility to change the mindset of every individual who harbors prejudice. However, by responding with dignity and resilience, you reclaim your power and show the strength of your heritage.
 

Remember, you’re not alone—your community stands with you, united by a shared identity and the determination to create a more inclusive world.